OMG, you’re getting MARRIED??!!! That’s wonderful. Congrats.
These days, marriage is not a commitment everyone is making, but for those who choose to say “I do,” this is a very important event. And yes, the wedding is all about the bride and groom (mainly the bride), and yes, everyone you love will sacrifice some of their time and money to make sure your dream day is exactly how you’ve always imagined. However, just because you have an excuse to think only of yourself, doesn’t mean you should.
You have chosen your bridesmaids as your most trusted allies to get you through this stressful (and exciting!) time in your life. They will be there to hand you a snack when you’ve forgotten to eat, supply you with a cocktail when your family is too much to handle, remind you of how gorgeous you are, and they’ll be there to take the brunt of your stress when things just don’t seem to be going as planned. Of course you will do the same for them when their big day comes. But it couldn’t hurt to shower them with a little love and appreciation now, right? After all, they’re your girls, and they deserve it.
Here are five thoughtful and budget-friendly ways to take care of your bridesmaids.
1. Be sensitive to their personal lives
You might have seating charts and cake flavors taking over your brain, but you also need to take the time to be a good friend. Listen to what's going on in their lives, and if possible, take that into account when planning aspects of the wedding that could affect them personally.
For example, your maid of honor might have to face an ex she hasn’t seen in years on your big day, so maybe seat him way in the back and keep her close by. You don’t need to follow her around and make sure they stay separated. You’ll be way too busy making the rounds for that, but try to do something to help her, if possible.
2. Forego typical bridesmaid gifts
Nobody REALLY wants a velour sweatsuit that says "Maid" on the back. I mean, how often after the wedding would anyone wear one of those? Get them personalized, thoughtful gifts that'll fit your budget and make them happy.
For my bridesmaids, I found individual, smaller gifts that I knew they’d enjoy and put together a gift bag for each gal. The gift bags included assorted nail polish sets, journals, and cute and cozy bathrobes. My husband did the same thing and made each of the groomsmen a “bro box” which included a Hemingway book, preppy socks, collar stays, bottles of whiskey, and tumbler glasses. The Knot has tons of great ideas to help you find the perfect gifts for your bridesmaids. And you can really cash in on some savings by using a coupon code when placing your order!
3. Treat them to breakfast the day of the wedding
You'll spend all day getting ready with them, the least you can do is provide pancakes, home fries, and mimosas. And make sure you eat some too! The day will fly by, and you can’t forget to eat.
4. Check on them during the reception
Yes, it's YOUR day, but that doesn't mean you can't take a moment and give them a hug and see how they're doing during the reception. It will mean a lot to them, and it's minimal effort for you.
5. Have a post-wedding "thank you" girls night
You'll be exhausted after all that planning once the wedding is finally behind you. You'll want to retreat with your new hubby and not have to plan anything (even if it's just dinner). However, make sure you invite the girls over for a evening of chick flicks, cocktails, and cupcakes just to show them that even though the wedding is over, you appreciate all they did for you during the planning process. Make it a potluck event, and have each of them bring a homemade baked good or cocktail ingredient so that it’s a relatively inexpensive evening for all of you.
This should be a fun celebration for you and your hubby-to-be. But it’s also a celebration of the overwhelming love between you two and your friends and family. Make it an unforgettable memory for your bridesmaids too.